FearlessFriday: Jaznea

This Friday’s #fearless moment comes from college student and blogger, Jaznea. She give a personal look at how her hair change, changed her world.

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Fearless. I racked my memory trying to figure out my most fearless moment. Was it when I moved to NYC right after high school, learning how to drive, or maybe even when I tried to start my own blog.

Then it hit me as I was washing my hair.

Two years ago for no reason and with no goal at the end, I cut all my hair off. Family and friends disagreed and still some disagree today. I was ignoring the negative feedback because despite their opinions, I felt beautiful and strangers were attracted to my hair more than ever before. They loved my natural curl as much as I did.

When my hair started to form into an Afro, the looks I received from the closest people to me said it all. They still hated my hair. I come from a family were your hair is your temple and they didn’t quite understand mines, yet.

It did hurt a bit that my family disliked my hair and that they all thought I was a lesbian because I had short hair. Then a very close friend of mines told me she thought my hair was ugly. She did not try to sugarcoat her feelings at all.

After that, I started to reflect on my hair progress for the last two years and the effects it had on my life. Besides the fact I have been single since the haircut and the amount of men that has been attracted to me has dropped. It’s also been harder for me to get a job since the haircut. But could I blame all of that on my hair? I started to believe that my hair was out control and it was slowly ruining my life.

Was straight long hair the only option for me? Why does Solange look so beautiful but I am being told I look ugly? And my biggest question was am I the only natural girl that get this much slack for their hair?

I was afraid that life wouldn’t get better for me until my hair grew back out because it all was still going downhill. I couldn’t believe all of this was happening because of my hair choice. What got me out this funk of mines was a very long look in the mirror.

I realized that I was beautiful and so was my hair. What did it matter if nobody else liked it, I have to live with myself every day. And for jobs I was just applying to the wrong places or coming off wrong since I was already insecure about my hair.

Nobody close to me understands why I cut my hair. It was not for a statement but out of pure laziness. I didn’t want to maintain long hair anymore. Some may call me crazy for my reasoning but I believe, therefore I know, I was FEARLESS for cutting my hair off.

It changed how people looked at me (good and bad), altered my personality, and I’m glad to be a part of the natural movement. It takes a lot of guts to chop off your hair because women base their beauty on their hair length. Women still have short hair but if it’s not the Rihanna cut then they probably have long hair. I have run into so many girls who want to go natural but don’t want to do the “big chop”. I myself have yet to understand why because it’s liberating and a different experience. I mean it will grow back.

Be fearless and shameless. I learned from my haircut to do what makes you happy even if others look at you like your crazy!

Want to share you #fearless moments? Contact david@hairrules.com

 

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Janelle Monae’s “Mane” Event!

In the music video for her latest release, Dance Apocalypitc, Janelle Monae lets her hair fly free. And though she’s center stage, there is a lady representing every hair texture on the TEXTURE SPECTRUM!

Where are you on the Texture Spectrum?
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Hair Rules | Mom In Love Forever

Thank you for the shout out Mom In Love,  your daughter is a super cutie!  Her Hair Rules!

 

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Curly Commentary: A Natural Hair Journey in Pictures: Onto the Ombre: Page 7 : Essence.com

We always love hearing from Cassidy at Natural Selection Blog.  She has been a big supporter of ours and we can’t thank her enough!  She was kind enough to share  this link with us highlighting her natural journey. We are proud to have had a hand in it (well Dickey’s hands!).  Hope her story provides some hair inspiration to you all.

Curly Commentary: My Natural Hair Journey in Pictures: Onto the Ombre: Page 7 : Essence.com

While on a visit to New York, Dickey of Hair Rules wrangled me into his seat for a haircut (and let’s be honest, I’ve always wanted him to do my hair). Using a method where he first straightens the hair, he gave me an awesomely exaggerated shape that kept my length in the front and cropped my hair short on the sides. Because my roots were grown out, the color faded in this reverse ombre that inspired me to call this cut “The Flame.”

 

Check out Cassidy’s hair journey in full here:

Curly Commentary: My Natural Hair Journey in Pictures: Onto the Ombre: Page 7 : Essence.com.

#QA – What Can I Do To Get My Curls Back?

Question:  I have been without a relaxer since 2006, but I have been blow drying, pressing and flat ironing my hair from then until 4 weeks ago. I want to go back to curly and natural. When wet, my curls and hair look great, but when it air dries it looks like straw. It is still curly at the roots but half way down it is totally straight. What can I do to get my curls back?

Dickey’s Answer:  What’s happening is that the majority of styles that you are wearing are straight, and at some point you are going to have to depart from the damage that is occurring from your straight  styling.  Your hair does have a lot of versatility it’s just your primary styling is straight and if you style natural hair too much away from what it is, which is curly, you get heat damage.  Being curly or being natural is, you’re actually living in a moisturizing world, because the idea of being natural is that you’re incorporating your whole haircare and styling routine into your shower routine.  I suspect that your hair in its natural state as it is now is not getting styled in that manner and probably doesn’t see water until the end of the week or two weeks when you shampoo probably with a shampoo that strips your hair.  Then you go in and use a full on country press that hard press where the only objective is to get it straight and wear it straight.   At this point you have heat damage.  The only way to get back to your natural curl is to depart from the straight stuff.   I’m not sure you really want to do that today or you want to do that in the summertime.  It’s entirely up to you, but at some point  you are going to have to refrain from using so much heat on it.  Please stop using shampoos that have suds they were never designed for your hair.  Use the Daily Cleansing Cream Non Sudsing Shampoo that we have at Hair Rules .  It’s a cream non sudsing shampoo that has incredible moisturizing properties which gently cleans your scalp, it’s like skin care for your hair and it doesn’t strip your hair.  The idea is that if the hair is left softer then it’s going to be more pliable.  That should help to stop the damage that’s occurring by your heat styling.  I don’t know if you want to do straw sets but it sounds like you really want to get back to your natural curl pattern.  The only way to do that is is get off the fence and depart  from that straight stuff that is on the ends of your beautiful curly hair and start to wear your hair curly three to four days a week and then you can do straight styling on the other days.  There’s no way to get curl back on a texture that has been permanently straightened via heat damage.  The only thing I can tell you is to avoid shampoos that have suds, use the daily cleansing cream, and a comb attachment.  You’re in a cold season you won’t have to deal with humidity and negative effects of trying to wear a straight style in the humidity.  You shouldn’t have to use so much heat on your hair.  Only use a flat iron once a week when you do your blow dry and press if you don’t feel like departing with the straight stuff on the end maybe you should just do it in the spring or the summer so that you can continue to wear it straight.  Avoid excessive heat on the new hair that is not permanently straight.  I hope this helps.  If you have anymore questions I’m here to answer them.

#QA I have a really nice curl pattern when it is still wet. How do I keep this look once dry?

This is a good one because I find that a lot of women once you go natural I think the challenge has been that is difficult to find out methods that have been suitable to your texture, so you end up doing alternative things like twist outs, or other styles that are not necessarily the easiest ones.  The great thing about being natural and having a curl pattern when it’s wet is that those are just small indicators.  Whenever you have conditioner in your hair and it’s wet, or you have shampoo in your hair, you see curls.  The problem is that you can never capture those curls or know what to do, so that’s kind of the missing link in going natural.  How do I capture this great curl pattern that I see when my hair is super wet with either shampoo or conditioner.? That’s always exciting to me because the answer is simple…it simply means that you capture that curl pattern with your favorite styling product.

Hopefully all you naturals are avoiding shampoos that have suds because they are so damaging for your hair.  I am talking about the sulfate free ones as well.  Hair Rules has a sulfate free shampoo with Aloe Grapefruit or a Volumizing Shampoo.  They’re both sulfate free, but we don’t suggest them to any of our clients or textures who have textures 3 or  4, unless it’s for removing buildup every few months or so.  Because those textures are naturally drier, they will never need anything that has suds be it sulfate free or not.  What was missing from your arsenal were these new cream shampoos, non-sudsing cream shampoos, that are the missing link to textures that are naturally dry to getting great versatility through proper hair care.  These non-sudsing cream shampoos  of course Hair Rules Daily Cleansing Cream Moisturizing No Suds Shampoo is just the best thing since sliced bread when it comes to natural hair.  It’s a cream shampoo that allows you to de-tangle while you are shampooing and it doesn’t dry out your hair, so your hair is left soft, and de-tangled, and freshly cleansed.  That’s your go to weekly shampoo and that of course helps to bring out the curl pattern.

Once you’re finished you have your Hair Rules Quench Ultra Rich Conditioner for textures that are naturally drier or kinkier or curlier textures.  Conditioners are there to help further soften the hair and to help you recognize your curl pattern.  Once you put your conditioner in you should be able to see a great curl pattern because  soft hair is the only hair that wants to curl up which is why you only see curls when you have conditioner on.  The great thing about the quench conditioner is that it will allow you to see the curl pattern that you have, and it also preps your hair for your styling products.  So after shampooing with your cream shampoo you want to use your quench conditioner or if you’re co-washing you’ll use your quench conditioner daily   to simply rinse and condition and use your quench conditioner to co-wash.  That  method  of co-washing and wash and wear styling helps to transform your texture to one that is soft and elongated and curlier, it will just get curlier and curlier.  Of course you are looking to find out how you capture that curl pattern.  These are small indicators, when you see a curl pattern when the hair is wet and has conditioner on it that’s just a small indicator that’s where you are going to apply your styling products. Again, your conditioner helps to prep your hair which softens it and de-tangles and elongates.

The moment you rinse out your conditioner, the instant you rinse it out,  that instant while you are conditioning the hair and your fingers are feeling your texture and you’re feeling these curls that are so prevalent as you’re rinsing your conditioner.  That active rinsing the conditioner helps you become more familiar with the texture that you will learn to love.  The moment you feel these great curls that you have as you’re rinsing out your conditioner you’ll then stop rinsing.  The moment you rinse out the conditioner the hair is super wet and super soft and still curly reapply your styling product, your favorite styling product. Be it the Kinky Curling Cream or the Curly Whip.  Hair Rules has a number of different styling products for different textures a lot of them can cross over to other textures.  A lot of women that we know that have kinky hair also use the Curly Whip and a lot of women with curlier hair use Kinky Curling Cream so a lot of times it’s just a matter of your preference.  They both work similar but remember you want to use as much of your styling product to re-saturate your hair.

I don’t know if any of  you remember getting a roller set or wet set in your hair when you had a relaxer or your hair was straight.  What’s a roller set?  You’re not going to put a towel dry section around a roller you’re going to saturate it and put it on the sections which are going to be very wet.  You are going to set it and you’re not going to disturb it until it is dry.  Setting your natural curl pattern is essentially the same concept you’re wet setting your natural curl pattern.  You’re going to condition, get the hair soft, rinse it so it is super wet, and you’re going to saturate your hair with your favorite styling product that should also act as the conditioning agent.  The Hair Rules Kinky Curling Cream and the Curly Whip also will condition the hair.  Make sure you use enough. You can’t overuse these products.  Make sure to saturate the hair with it.  You might use a handful of it or a golf-ball size amount depending on your thickness of hair.  You might use more if your hair is longer.  Use your product as a tool.  Use your styling product to saturate your hair.  Once you’ve worked that product through in a manner de-tangles and stretches out, I like to add a little water sometime so the hair really hangs and then set it.  Whether you want it defused, sit under a portable hood dryer and if you don’t want to do it in the morning than do it at night and stretch it out afterward.  You’ve got to work it into your lifestyle. The wash and wear styling, the more frequently you do it, the softer and easier it will be to capture your curl pattern and your curls will get better and better by doing this.  Wash and wear styling also allows you to go forward with a lot of versatility styling ,whether you’re going to do twist outs, braid outs or straight styling  – you don’t get heat damage because you’re doing a lot of wash and wear on top of hair that is thoroughly moisturized through the method of wash and wear styling.

I hope this helps.  Go to hairrules.com also has a how-to section with how-to videos and it has application videos on how to achieve all of this looks.  By all means go to hairrules.com and look to see in the how-to video section will show you how to apply the product and step by step methods so you can see for yourself.

Natural Hair Care Guide

Thanks to our friends at Bellasugar for consulting our texture guru Dickey on advice for natural hair. You can view the original post here: Natural Hair Care Guide.

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Whether you’re transitioning from relaxed hair or you’re a stalwart curly girl, the rules of natural hair care can get confusing. Break it all down with tips from Anthony Dickey of Hair Rules Salon (he’s worked on celebrity curls from Minnie Driver’s to Alicia Keys’s). You’ll get longer, stronger, healthier kinky hair after reading this all-inclusive natural hair guide.

1. Do trim four times a year

Ever wonder where those single strand knots come from? They’re actually a warning flag, screaming that it’s time for a haircut. “Single strand knots come from split ends,” Dickey says. “Split ends can be solved by regular cuts.” Try to get trims every three to four months to stop knots before they start.

2. Do get layers

A layered cut works well with naturally kinky textures because otherwise hair can fall in an awkward triangular shape. Your cut should work well with curly and straight styles for flexible styling.

3. Don’t cut curly

“Every strand deserves the same respect as the one next to it,” Dickey explains. Getting your hair cut curly will not promise the shape you desire as natural hair tends to look different every time. Instead get hair blow-dried first.

4. Do style wet

Apply styling products on soaking wet hair for the best (and most elongated) results — it’s like a wet set for your natural curls. Even if you plan to blow-dry hair, begin with soaking wet hair to minimize breakage.

5. Don’t use oil the wrong way

Argan, coconut, olive, avocado . . . oils are a natural woman’s staple. But make sure to use oil to lock in moisture, not as a good conditioning treatment replacement. If you apply it too often, it will only sit on top of the hair shaft instead of penetrating.

6. Do wash more often

“Nothing is going to moisturize your hair like the chemical makeup of water,” Dickey says. Hydrated hair will be more resilient against heat damage, and it will also aid with de-tangling and curl definition. He recommends rinsing hair at least every four days.

7. Don’t blow-dry with a brush

If you’re attempting a straight style, make sure to check the weather first and forgo the dreaded brush. Select one light spritz to fight humidity, and your best tool is a comb attachment. “If you are dexterity-challenged, a comb attachment is the most practical,” Dickey explains. “And there is no extra tension on the hair. It’s always moving, so it’s not burning your hair.”

8. Don’t use pea-size amounts

If you aren’t getting the results you desire, maybe you aren’t using enough product. Other hair types can get away with quarter-size portions. But kinky textures should begin with golf-ball and tennis-ball dollops.

9. Do handle with care

“You know what they say when you hand wash clothes — handle with care,” Dickey says. “Treat your hair like a cashmere sweater.” Your fingers are your best de-tangling tool. If you’re continually running into snags, add more conditioner to help smooth the process.

10. Do turn down your flat iron

Your flat iron should be set between 350°F and 400°F. The only smoke allowed should be steam, not singed strands. Don’t attempt to get a pin-straight blow-dry. Instead use the blow-dryer to stretch and dry hair, then follow up with a flat iron to press. Or you can opt for a roller set instead.