FearlessFriday: Jaznea

This Friday’s #fearless moment comes from college student and blogger, Jaznea. She give a personal look at how her hair change, changed her world.

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Fearless. I racked my memory trying to figure out my most fearless moment. Was it when I moved to NYC right after high school, learning how to drive, or maybe even when I tried to start my own blog.

Then it hit me as I was washing my hair.

Two years ago for no reason and with no goal at the end, I cut all my hair off. Family and friends disagreed and still some disagree today. I was ignoring the negative feedback because despite their opinions, I felt beautiful and strangers were attracted to my hair more than ever before. They loved my natural curl as much as I did.

When my hair started to form into an Afro, the looks I received from the closest people to me said it all. They still hated my hair. I come from a family were your hair is your temple and they didn’t quite understand mines, yet.

It did hurt a bit that my family disliked my hair and that they all thought I was a lesbian because I had short hair. Then a very close friend of mines told me she thought my hair was ugly. She did not try to sugarcoat her feelings at all.

After that, I started to reflect on my hair progress for the last two years and the effects it had on my life. Besides the fact I have been single since the haircut and the amount of men that has been attracted to me has dropped. It’s also been harder for me to get a job since the haircut. But could I blame all of that on my hair? I started to believe that my hair was out control and it was slowly ruining my life.

Was straight long hair the only option for me? Why does Solange look so beautiful but I am being told I look ugly? And my biggest question was am I the only natural girl that get this much slack for their hair?

I was afraid that life wouldn’t get better for me until my hair grew back out because it all was still going downhill. I couldn’t believe all of this was happening because of my hair choice. What got me out this funk of mines was a very long look in the mirror.

I realized that I was beautiful and so was my hair. What did it matter if nobody else liked it, I have to live with myself every day. And for jobs I was just applying to the wrong places or coming off wrong since I was already insecure about my hair.

Nobody close to me understands why I cut my hair. It was not for a statement but out of pure laziness. I didn’t want to maintain long hair anymore. Some may call me crazy for my reasoning but I believe, therefore I know, I was FEARLESS for cutting my hair off.

It changed how people looked at me (good and bad), altered my personality, and I’m glad to be a part of the natural movement. It takes a lot of guts to chop off your hair because women base their beauty on their hair length. Women still have short hair but if it’s not the Rihanna cut then they probably have long hair. I have run into so many girls who want to go natural but don’t want to do the “big chop”. I myself have yet to understand why because it’s liberating and a different experience. I mean it will grow back.

Be fearless and shameless. I learned from my haircut to do what makes you happy even if others look at you like your crazy!

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Huff Post x Hair Rules

Julee Wilson, style & beauty editor for the Huffington Post’s Black Voices, stepped into the Hair Rules Salon to get a first hand experience from the texture guru, Hair Rules Co-Founder, Anthony Dickey.

After you check out the video, jump over to read the full “Style in the Wild” feature on Huff Post.

O MAGAZINE + Hair Rules

As you flip through the August 2013 O, The Oprah Magazine, be sure to lookout for Hair Rules’ found Anthony Dickey sharing some summer styling tips for your texture.

The feature showcases the fan-favorite, Kinky Curling Cream and the Dickey’s “Tenets of Texture.”

Drop us a comment and tell us what’s your favorite style for the summer!

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Declare Your Independence!

When you take a break from the BBQ, while you’re at the beach or when you’re checking out the fire works…share your #hairfreedom with @hairrules on Twitter & Instagram

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Up Close and Personal With Taren Guy

Thanks to Miss Merli for a nice post event wrap up on her blog.  She has some great images from the night and a  one on one talk with Taren Guy.

Up Close and Personal With Taren Guy.

 

Where you at the event?  Let us know what you thought of it.

Customer Q and A – What Can I Do About Thinning Hair?

Question:

As a woman of color what can I do about thinning hair in the front and the sides of my face, or something to make my hair thicker?

Answer:

I’m assuming that you’re natural or not relaxed.  Thinning can come from a number of things usually thinning around the hairline or at the sides.  The hair around your hairline happens to be the finest, and the most fragile for everybody, regardless of ethnicity and texture. The hairline is the most fragile and finest texture because as the hair grows closer to to the face it gets finer.  As a result of that, any kind of damage that occurs usually occurs there first.  If you’ve been relaxing, doing weaves, or braids for a long extended period of time then you’re going to receive damage there first.  Hopefully, it’s not permanent damage because that happens a lot of time too.  The bulb of the follicle and if you damage the scalp or the root then the scalp just won’t produce anymore hair.  A lot of you know or heard the terms stress spots if you’ve been relaxing your hair.  The scalp is just refusing to produce healthy hair anymore.  So the last thing you want to do is damage the scalp by improper hair care or methods of enhancing or textures that are too harsh for your  scalp.  Remember, the scalp is your largest organ and you don’t disqualify your scalp as different from your skin.  It happens to be the area women focus the least amount of attention to, much differently than you do the skin on body or the face which you give the utmost care.  When it comes to the hair or scalp, you tend to deal with your hair care regimen in a manner that keeps you away from super healthy hair care or styling.  You want to be mindful with your hair care regimen; that you cleanse the scalp with something that is gentle and not drying it out, that you cleanse the scalp at least once a weekend, you refrain from using shampoos that have suds, and if you have a texture that is naturally kinky or curly you want to use Hair Rules Cleansing Cream.  This will help to alleviate any kind of dryness or dry scalp and it is also a way to gently care for the hair so you’re not drying out the hair of the scalp, and the ph balance of about 5.5 which is closest to the skin.  Like I said, stay away from any harsh tension, chemicals, or braids that are too harsh for the scalp which usually take place and pop up around the hairline.  I hope this helps and I hope to see your scalp grow back hair, fuller thicker hair, as a result of this.

Natural Hair Care Guide

Thanks to our friends at Bellasugar for consulting our texture guru Dickey on advice for natural hair. You can view the original post here: Natural Hair Care Guide.

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Whether you’re transitioning from relaxed hair or you’re a stalwart curly girl, the rules of natural hair care can get confusing. Break it all down with tips from Anthony Dickey of Hair Rules Salon (he’s worked on celebrity curls from Minnie Driver’s to Alicia Keys’s). You’ll get longer, stronger, healthier kinky hair after reading this all-inclusive natural hair guide.

1. Do trim four times a year

Ever wonder where those single strand knots come from? They’re actually a warning flag, screaming that it’s time for a haircut. “Single strand knots come from split ends,” Dickey says. “Split ends can be solved by regular cuts.” Try to get trims every three to four months to stop knots before they start.

2. Do get layers

A layered cut works well with naturally kinky textures because otherwise hair can fall in an awkward triangular shape. Your cut should work well with curly and straight styles for flexible styling.

3. Don’t cut curly

“Every strand deserves the same respect as the one next to it,” Dickey explains. Getting your hair cut curly will not promise the shape you desire as natural hair tends to look different every time. Instead get hair blow-dried first.

4. Do style wet

Apply styling products on soaking wet hair for the best (and most elongated) results — it’s like a wet set for your natural curls. Even if you plan to blow-dry hair, begin with soaking wet hair to minimize breakage.

5. Don’t use oil the wrong way

Argan, coconut, olive, avocado . . . oils are a natural woman’s staple. But make sure to use oil to lock in moisture, not as a good conditioning treatment replacement. If you apply it too often, it will only sit on top of the hair shaft instead of penetrating.

6. Do wash more often

“Nothing is going to moisturize your hair like the chemical makeup of water,” Dickey says. Hydrated hair will be more resilient against heat damage, and it will also aid with de-tangling and curl definition. He recommends rinsing hair at least every four days.

7. Don’t blow-dry with a brush

If you’re attempting a straight style, make sure to check the weather first and forgo the dreaded brush. Select one light spritz to fight humidity, and your best tool is a comb attachment. “If you are dexterity-challenged, a comb attachment is the most practical,” Dickey explains. “And there is no extra tension on the hair. It’s always moving, so it’s not burning your hair.”

8. Don’t use pea-size amounts

If you aren’t getting the results you desire, maybe you aren’t using enough product. Other hair types can get away with quarter-size portions. But kinky textures should begin with golf-ball and tennis-ball dollops.

9. Do handle with care

“You know what they say when you hand wash clothes — handle with care,” Dickey says. “Treat your hair like a cashmere sweater.” Your fingers are your best de-tangling tool. If you’re continually running into snags, add more conditioner to help smooth the process.

10. Do turn down your flat iron

Your flat iron should be set between 350°F and 400°F. The only smoke allowed should be steam, not singed strands. Don’t attempt to get a pin-straight blow-dry. Instead use the blow-dryer to stretch and dry hair, then follow up with a flat iron to press. Or you can opt for a roller set instead.